Événement | Âge | Situation ou événement de la vie - Qu'est-ce qui vous a amené à franchir une barrière dans votre progression vers un comportement sexuel problématique? | Activités ou actions - Décrivez les comportements que vous avez adoptés. | Comment vous sentiez-vous à ce moment-là? | Le fait d'utiliser Internet ou d'avoir des fantasmes envers les personnes mineures a-t-il changé votre façon de penser? De quelle manière? Retrouvez les pensées qui accompagnaient régulièrement chaque activité. |
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Référence : Module 1A - Comprendre pourquoi
Propriété intellectuelle : The Lucy Faithfull Foundation
Sous chaque jour, noircissez la colonne grise pour indiquer les heures que vous avez passées en ligne ou celles où vous avez eu des fantasmes.
La colonne blanche à côté sert à inscrire la nature de votre activité en ligne ou de vos fantasmes. Du contenu illégal sera inscrit en ROUGE, du contenu à haut risque en JAUNE et du contenu à faible risque en VERT.
Vous pouvez inclure la façon dont vous vous sentez pour mieux voir ce qui se passe
Well, actually, you are harming yourself because you are reinforcing your attraction to things that are illegal and abusive.
As explored earlier, we can get pleasure from our fantasies. If the subjects of our fantasies are inappropriate, we then associate feelings of pleasure with something that is illegal and abusive. This is particularly true if you masturbate to the point of ejaculation to the fantasy, as the next time you think of the fantasy you will remember the pleasure and arousal.
This is not helpful if you want to control an attraction to children or an illegal behaviour such as looking at sexual images of children.
So what is appropriate and inappropriate fantasies? We split inappropriate fantasies into three sections:
These are fantasies that would be illegal if they were carried out or acted on in real life, such as having sex with a child.
Imagine that you are a 48-year-old man and you have a sexual fantasy about a 16-year-old boy or girl. Is it illegal? No. But is it appropriate? We think not, because there is probably a difference in power, whether it is based on age, money or life experience.
This could be a legal and healthy fantasy for consenting adults, but not for you. For example, an adult dressed as a school child. This may be OK for some people but for those who have a sexual interest in children, it may take them a step closer to a fantasy about a child.
Whether a particular fantasy is considered ‘inappropriate’ can vary from person to person; for example, it is more appropriate for a 20-year-old person to have sexual fantasies about an 18-year-old person than a 60-year-old person.
Now let us see how much you understand fantasy, using Exercise 2.