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Understanding the behaviour

1A – Understanding why
4 Parties
Starting point
Exercise 1: Diary of your fantasies or daily Internet use
Exercise 2: Progression timeline
Reflection
1B – Triggers
3 Parties
The different types of triggers
Situational and environmental risks
Reflection
1C – Taking responsibility
4 Parties
Starting point
Denial
Changes
Reflection
1D – Fantasies
7 Parties
What is a fantasy?
Exercise 1 : Thinking about past fantasies
Types of fantasies
Exercise 2: Fantasy knowledge
Exercise 3: Inappropriate fantasy
Exercise 4: Use a fantasy management technique
Reflection
1E – Addiction
3 Parties
Starting point
Take care of yourself
Reflection
1F – The problem of immediate gratification
2 Parties
Immediate gratification
Reflection
1G – Online words
8 Parties
Sex and the Internet
Exercise 1: Sex and the Internet
Online Behaviour
Exercise 2: My Online and Offline Behaviour
Exercise 3: Online and Offline Relationships
Exercise 4: What do I look for in “real life” relationships?
Exercise 5: How do I cope with isolation or loneliness?
Reflection
1H – Images are minors
7 Parties
Starting point
Exercise 1: Understanding and responding to justifications
Consent
Exercise 2: Empathy
The effects on the minor of being involved in the production of sexual images
Exercise 3: Effects on you
Reflection
1I – Problematic collecting of images of sexual exploitation of minors on the Internet
6 Parties
Why do people collect?
Exercise 1: My collecting
Exercise 2: The impact of collecting on my life
Exercise 3: Why collecting?
Exercise 4 – Challenge yourself
Reflection
1J – Sexual communication with minors online
6 Parties
Sexual communication
Exercise 1: Different approaches to minors
Exercise 2: My different stages
Exercise 3: Cycle of online grooming
Exercise 4: The minor’s perspective
Reflection
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Exercise 2: Fantasy knowledge

Understanding the behaviour 1D – Fantasies Exercise 2: Fantasy knowledge

Read each example of a fantasy below and consider whether you think each one is an appropriate or inappropriate fantasy.

Then click to see what the answer is.

This would be an appropriate fantasy and it is OK to have this fantasy as it is depicting a scenario which is non-abusive. However, if this fantasy is about a sexual relationship you had when you were under 16, this would be inappropriate. Also, if you now have a new partner you need to consider how healthy this is for you and whether it will affect your new sexual relationship.

This is an inappropriate fantasy. Forcing someone to do something sexual against their will is illegal.

If the fantasy depicts two consenting adults who want to dress up in school uniform then this could be an appropriate fantasy. However, if you have been accessing indecent images of children, it would be inappropriate because you could be reinforcing your inappropriate thoughts about children.

This is an inappropriate fantasy. A child needs to be 16 years old to consent to sexual activity, and 18 to consent to images of them to be shared. Regardless of how old you are, sexual activity with a child is illegal.

If you fantasize about meeting each other and consenting to this activity, then it would be appropriate.

Adult pornography

The Internet has a vast range of adult pornographic material on offer and it gives you the chance to explore what you like, what you don’t like and the type of person you want to see engaging in sexual activity.

Over time, what you view will start to create and develop your sexual preferences and sexual fantasies.

Fantasies do not automatically lead to behaviours, but they do increase your likeliness of wanting to ‘play out’ particular fantasies.

Indecent images of minors

Accessing indecent images of minors can also shape your sexual fantasies.

And if you masturbate to these fantasies to the point of ejaculation, this positively reinforces the attraction. Masturbation to the point of ejaculation is extremely pleasurable.

Over time, the things that we think about during masturbation are likely to be associated with feelings of arousal.

Will this make me commit a contact offence?

We are not saying that everyone who has accessed indecent images of minors or has masturbated to the thought of a minor will go on to commit a contact offence. But, if you are masturbating to a fantasy or an image of a minor, then this is going to develop your sexual preferences, just as adult pornography would, but in a very unhealthy and illegal way.

Although you may not believe this to be an option, under new and unknown circumstances, you do not know how you might act on that arousal.

People also rehearse things they want to do and build confidence through their fantasies. You might not be thinking about enacting your fantasies now, but over time, your confidence and urge to act on them will increase, especially if you find that you are not getting the same level of pleasure from the fantasy; you may find you want to do something to increase the buzz.

Now, using Exercise 3, let us look at one of your inappropriate fantasies.

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